Just seeing if there are any moms who are dealing with being sick for a while (of any kind) and HS. I struggle with feeling well and getting things done. I feel like I fail most of the time! I know it is not my fault, but it can be depressing. I used to be outgoing and busy! Sometimes I feel the urge to crawl in a hole somewhere! Other days are better! We get things done when I feel well. How do you handle it? My boys are 7 and 5!
I try hard not to do it – but I do occasionally declare a “mom’s sick” day. My kids are 6, 3, and 18 mo. On mom’s sick day, I only require a couple of songs each for violin/piano practice (we do Suzuki, so I need to be very involved in practice – we have done over 300 days in a row!) And we don’t particularily do any schooling – I might have my son practice reading to me, and I might read from our free-read book… Otherwise, I lie on the couch and get attention from them, and they get a rare day to watch educational shows. Oh, I make meals as well of course.
I’m hoping that as they get more independant, on my sick days they will at least be able to read their easier readings and narrate them to me….
Mind you, looking at your post, it sounds like you might be dealing more with depression? That can be a harder one – I suffered from depression for years… and it doesn’t help that as a SAHM and a homeschooler, you need to be motivated for things to happen.
If it is depression you are talking about – you need to do a few things for yourself! (which can be hard…) – taking a relaxing bath, giving yourself a little treat. When I need a break, I take the kids to the Y and put them in the babysitting – then I can go and read a book, or have a workout (yeah, right… lol), or go soak in the hot tub for a while. My kids get to play with toys, go on the giant playstructure and run around – and sometimes the Y has the bouncer up! I can take a break for about an hour, and it only costs me a little for the babysitting time.
I’ve had the flu since Monday. All we’ve done this week is math. They’ve spent everyday this week with grandparents except Monday because I haven’t even been able to drag myself out of bed to make meals, it’s been bad. Our kids are older, 14, 10, and 9, so they can look after themselves a litttle better but I really didn’t want them getting sick. This is our first year homeschooling, and our curriculum was kind of thrown together spur of the moment and is not real organized at the moment, but I’m hoping as I get more organized and continue on when I am sick they can do more and more without me having to tell them. And, honestly, they do their math and spend the day playing Legos or reading, or hanging out with grandparents, all of which I consider very educational.
Hey guys, thanks for your responses! I am dealing with an illness that I have had for years on top of adrenal fatigue diagnosed last Dec. This is getting better, though. I have days where I am exhausted..sometimes headaches..sometimes depressed due to a combo of things! Depression from sickness, having so much to accomplish, not meeting my expectations of self, being overweight–which is due to illness etc…. All wrapped up feeling like a failure! I have a wonderful family and husband!
I live in a small town. Would LOVE to have a Y here! Seen them in other towns-very nice! I have no family near.
Didn’t know if anyone was struggling with longterm illness. But even what you do on normal sick days are great too! I seem to have a lot of those! 🙂
I have had long term illness and also pain. I broke my back in 2000 while pregnant. I was in a wheelchair until 2004. The nerve pain was excruciating. I couldn’t think straight for anything because of the pain. I still have pain put it’s much better. Also, during that time I had constant ear pain due to damage from the car accident. Any noise at all could send me through the roof! About 3 years before that I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia. I also had adrenal failure in 1999. I’ve been on bed through 2 pregnancies. Somehow we’ve managed to homeschool through it all.
Probably your boys have learned to be responsible. If not, I’d have your husband start working with them to teach them. We did school from bed for years.
Most of all, I want to encourage you to change your diet. I don’t know what your illness is (that would help) but I have no symptoms now after doing the candida diet for years. I also gave up regular medicine. Most of it makes people have more symptoms. Natural medicine, assuming you have a doctor that is good at what they do and not someone doing it as a hobby, is really the way to go for healing. I also do T-Tapp (my fusion did not take so my back is still technically broken). I have to watch what I do and how much I do. But, T-Tapp works for everyone. I can do it with my broken back. I started out doing one exercise at a time, adding one more every other day. Even if you don’t loose weight or inches, you will feel better. T-Tapp is not your normal fitness routine. There is one that you can do sitting down. I encourage you to call them and tell them exactly what is wrong and see what they recommend.
Also, if you can utilize audio books (from the library or the free ones on the web) that will help you a lot. We did that for a long time. Still do it.
PollySoup, I do LOVE natural medicine! I am taking natural supplements for my health. I have a D.O.! I have been on the Hallelujah Diet about 4 times (85% raw 15% cooked) The longest was for 6 months. But, we always seem to drift away from it. I have done the Candida Diet–just don’t stick to it as long as I need to! I have been through several colonics and have done other similiar things with a Naturopath. I seem to still be sick…and I feel hopeless at times. I have tried so many ways to get well naturally. I too have some fibro/Hashimotto’s Disease. Along with the Adrenal Fatigue.
I looked into T-Tapp cause I noticed some people with Thyroid problems were doing it. I got the notion it was like Yoga?? Am I mistaken? I feel like it is not good for a Christian to do yoga. I wasn’t able to download the examples on the website. But, I emailed someone to ask if it was like yoga or not. She wasn’t sure.
So glad you are feeling better now! Sometimes it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel! Thanks for responding! All responses are greatly appreciated!
T-Tapp is not like yoga at all. I wouldn’t do it if it was. It’s more like stretching calisthenics without any jumping, etc. I still only do the Basic Workout Plus. I’m about to start on working into the Total Workout. If I don’t do it every day, I get really tired!
We move about every 2 years and I’ve been to many natural doctors. The one I currently have is fantastic. He knows things that nobody else knows. He has helped me so much. If you are near St. Louis, I’ll give you his name. Diet is so important! But repairing the systems are very important. I have two friends that go to him that have Hashimotto’s Disease and he has helped them so much. One of my friends is the busiest person I know now. She seems to have endless energy. But several years ago, she could hardly function.
I will be praying that God will lead you to the place that you can find healing!
I have also been struggling with health issues for years. A lot going on with me and my health ( or lack of ). Adrenal’s, heart problems, liver problems, hyper-thyroidism, weakened immune system, anemia, as well as other things peppered throughout such as a herniated disc, bronchitis, shingles, etc. It just seemed to keep on coming! Like a snowball effect. It got so bad that I wasn’t able to care for my children or myself . We actually moved in with my parents just so we could be taken care of. We had to take some breaks from lessons and also had times of very light lessons. I am still not there all the way but I am so much better than I was. After years of things seeming to get worse and worse I started to understand that a lot of these physical problems had a spiritual root. I had allowed fear to overtake me until I couldn’t even tell what a normal stress response to everyday situations was. I had no idea! I finally ( after years of misdiagnosis) found a very good Christian natropath who took the time to listen, test, really dig deep and do what was needed to get to the root of the problem. Basically, because I was always so fearful, my body was so used to sending out the stress hormones that it started doing that for any kind of mental, emotional or physical effort at all. ie, making phone calls, going up and down stairs, talking or even thinking about ANYTHING that was important to me. After a while of that my body started shutting down. None of the supplements, medications, therepies or injections were helping as much as they should have been because I had not yet dealt with the root cause of all of these ailments – fear! The Bible says that fear isthe opposite of faith and comes directly from the devil. When you let things like that into your life and don’t deal with as soon as it presents itself, they will take root and grow until it is so big and ugly that it will take major battle to get rid of it. Because our spirits are so closely linked to our physical bodies, they will in fact, over time, produce the “fruit” of what our spirit’s are growing. God does not want us to be sick! We should be, in general, healthy people. To often we discount what is going on in the spirit and only look to the flesh. However “we do not fight against flesh and blood… “. I would encourage anyone who is battling against an ongoing illness ( esspecially those that seemed to have cropped up out of nowhere) to really dig deep and search there hearts, pray a lot for spiritual discerment and find the root of their illness. There is ALWAYS a reason and a lot of times the reason is spiritual. Hope my two censt worth help… and make you think! May God bless you and keep you and give you healing, strength, power and wisdom!
Hi there… just wanted to add some encouragement. I also have Hashimoto’s Disease. And some other health issuess, migraines and asthma. It is so hard to deal with these things at times. I also just push through and when I need to take a day and rest I do. My boys are 8 and almost 7. They are very understanding when Mom is sick and needs to rest. We will do school in bed or they get a free day.
It can be very difficult at times to deal with long term health issues, but know that God is with you. And I know that there are ladies on here that will pray for you, I for one.
I have celiac and IBS which has required me to make almost EVERYTHING from scratch. I have had chronic fatigue for several years now, along with adrenal fatigue. The heat makes it worse and drops my blood pressure and I live in South Florida! There are many times I can’t drive because I cannot focus my eyes and the migraines get so bad.
I am seeking medical help but I’ve gone through several doctors and lots of money. I’m hoping I’m on the right track with supplements right now.
But truly, the things that have helped me is literally crying out for grace to the Lord each morning. I set the coffee pot for decaf coffee (can’t do caffeine-further depletes the adrenals) in the am and I get out of bed (despite how incredibly groggy I feel) and meet with the Lord before the kids get up. I print up a weekly school list for the kids and hold them responsible for it. I try to get all our Bible/read aloud/ lessons that I’m responsible for done as early as possible so that I can lay down in the afternoon if I need to.
What doesn’t help is to get on the computer when I should be trying to lay down. The computer doesn’t help my energy levels (in fact my cardiologist told me it will make it worse). I don’t do outside activities right now except church. We do travel with my husband so that makes life a little crazy sometimes. I use the crockpot ALOT.
I realized that I need to focus more on my younger child (she’s 5). The older need to start becoming more independent with their schoolwork. I make lots of use of audio books. I try to keep life as simple as possible.
We did spend several weeks with the flu. That was HORRIBLE. Don’t make evaluations about your life while you are sick–it’s not the reality. I too got depressed after the second week of the flu in our home. Things will get better. Learn what you can from it.