I haven’t used a formal spelling program, except for Spelling Wisdom from SCM, but my daughter just finished up her fifth grade year homeschooling after being in pub school for fourth grade, so I think I can make some good comparisons for you of how some of these resources will work for a kid this age new to homeschooling. (Just FYI, we homeschooled dd 3rd and 5th, and ds preschool and 1st, and we will be at home again next year – YAY!)
I haven’t used All About Spelling, but it gets very good reviews. I think you are taking a very good approach to buy very little and wait and see what you will need. It is easy to overbuy because everything looks so great! but then when you are actually using it, well, every house is different so it may not be so great for you.
Spelling Wisdom uses copywork to reinforce the spelling of the most commonly used words. It is an excellent resource. You can use it, put it aside if you need to, and come back to it at any time without penalty, because it is at its core just copywork. It is appropriate for a wide range of ages. In these respects, it is a very good value.
I use and love the Queen’s Language Lessons, but they do not address spelling much at all. They will cover capitalization and rules like that, which is part of spelling I guess, and there is copywork included, but not systematic spelling. I think these books are great for a family new to homeschooling for several reasons: they are economical, they are ready to use with no parent prep, they are very different from any schoolwork that they will be used to from pub school, so are novel to the child, they have painless and short lessons, they allow you to see progression and get a sense of fulfillment from getting the book filled up, Oh I am sure I could go on with more reasons LOL but I do love these books. We used Lang. Lessons for the Elem Child for 5th grade and have a bit more to go in the book.
Now I am sorry this is long – but I want to make one more note here related to my poor speller -10 yo dd. Just in the past few weeks she has had somewhat of a spelling breakthrough – she has started caring whether or not the word is spelled right! In the past she would just write and write and however the words got down on paper she was satisfied. Now she is asking for help. She is seeing that there is an error and trying to correct it. So wonderful! I wonder if this is also part of finally getting free of “school” thinking and starting to take ownership of her own ideas and work. You mentioned deschooling, this is so important! Expect to go through some stages and changes next year!
Although we have homeschooled for two years, they weren’t consecutive. I am really looking forward to next year when, for the first time, we will be starting the year in the homeschooling groove!
OK I hope any of that helped!
Gem