obedience / fighting

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  • September 13, 2015 at 10:32 pm
    jill smith
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    We have been dealing with lots of fighting over little things lately and screaming at each other. First time obedience for them is not happening. My dd7 has been yelling a lot just to be loud (last child of 5) and at her sister age 10. She also has been acting way bigger that her age. We are picky on what they watch, she does spend sometime with a friend, that is also homeschooled, and she is acting like a actress flipping her head back and shoulders and I am so upset that my dd7 has picked this up. We have had a tgirlsalk about being modest and how does God view us as woman and young ladies.  She is a very sweet little girl but I see her trying to grow up way to fast. How do I control this? I certainly don’t want to shelter her to the point she get depressed or angry. I’m not sure if its a regional thing but girls here act so sassy and to big for their britches. I don’t want my daughter to in that group of girls who people think are spoiled brats. Are there any good books for this we could read together?

    Secondly, dd10 is our first girl and she has just started to develop some and so I was wondering if there are any good book for her and I to read about modesty and her changing body that aren’t to far over her head and get into dating and all that?

    Thanks for all your suggestions!

    September 14, 2015 at 8:42 am
    Karen
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    The Body Book by Nancy Rue

    American Girl’s book “The Care and Keeping of You”

    both are very good.

    On the topic of sheltering, I would encourage you to not think negatively about sheltering……the Bible never ever uses “shelter” in a negative way.

    Think about shelter — you still see the storm, hear the storm, maybe even feel some of the storm on your face, etc…..but you’re not getting drenched.

    So I’d encourage you to approach your daughters the same way.  Don’t hold back age- and maturity-appropriate information from them.  Have those heart to heart talks, encourage proper behavior with a code word or a look from you (when in public) or pulling them aside.  Use examples from their lives (with or without names, depending on what it is and who it is) of things to do and things not to do.

    I think if your daughter is getting depressed or angry, then she’s not seeing the sheltering as sheltering and perhaps your approach needs to be changed.  Talk it over with your husband – sometimes daddy’s see things and see ways to approach daughters that we miss.

    I guess one of my little soap-boxes is the whole “sheltering” issue……It’s such a positive thing from God’s point of view!  Please don’t take anything I’ve said as criticism — I just want to encourage you to shelter your children – that’s what God does with us.  We still experience bad things, but we have Him to run to.  So use God’s sheltering model to shelter your children.

     

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