I have a friend moving this coming month, and I offered to help anyway I can. She's asked if I can come in, after the old house has been emptied and do a thorough clean through. I gladly agreed. The issue now, is that she is insisting on paying my $12 an hour for the work. She's insisted multiple times after I've tried to refuse. To be honest, I'm really not comfortable with this. I'd love to be able to just help out my friend, you know? I know it won't be a financial burden for them, so it's not that. What would you ladies do in this scenario? We're lower income and my husband was just recently out of work for almost two months because of an injury, so I know she's just being really thoughtful. Am I being ungracious?
I just went through a similar thing with another friend recently too. I'm going to be watching one of her daughters on Thursday mornings for the next school year. Same thing, she was insisting on paying, and I was refusing. Finally, we discovered that Costco has a great price on coconut sugar and I don't have a membership, so she's going to trade me coconut sugar for child care.
I'm always willing to help out, and I don't want my friends to think they have to pay me because of it. I know part of it is that if I ever needed help, I wouldn't be able to afford to pay a friend. I've always tried to do something nice, like bake a loaf of bread or a treat for the person, but beyond that, I've always just assumed that friends jump in and help, wherever they can. Any insight?