Switching math programs angst…advice?

I will start by saying I cannot speak to the math programs at all (sorry!) but I have one daughter with special needs who attends private school, then one daughter who is adopted-loves science, art, sports,- and one biological healthy daughter who may be the craziest of them all!  Our adopted daughter gets some math concepts w/o issue and other times I feel like you when you said you had no idea why she doesn’t grasp simple concepts.  I love math so it is really hard for me to keep my patience as well.  So about your angst- have confidence that you know what is best for her.  And if you don’t know right now, but know what she is doing is not working, then be brave and try something else.  You have her at home in part so you can tailor her education, my daughter would be lost in a school setting for some subjects but would probably go under the radar till it was too late b/c she is so bright in other areas.  Now for my thoughts on siblings of special needs kids.  They are in a tough spot.  They have different expectations and more responsibility.  I know how hard it was for me to come to terms with my daughters needs and I am supposed to be more mature than my 7 year old!  My guess is if you and your husband have the heart to homeschool, the heart to adopt, and the heart to love and cherish a child whose referal other families would have passed on, you are probably raising a son who will be able to handle having a sister who has “fun” math.  My little two do have times when they question their sister’s “privliges”, in fact around 5 years old they both said they wished they had brain tumors!  But they are growing too and they need our example, lots of loving discussion, and time to complain and express all their feelings in a safe place.  I wish I could tell you what to do about the math, but more than that I pray you will be able to let go of the angst (cause don’t we have enough of that with all the apects of special needs!) and trust yourself and your spouse and your God.  I hope you get good feed back on the math programs, we use Singapore but I question my daughter’s grasp and may change in the future.  We will be starting Singapore with our youngest this coming fall but will definately change if it isn’t right for her, even if that means the kids are doing something different.  Whatever works right?!  Speaking of angst, next fall our daughter with special needs will only be going to school half days and be home with an aid every afternoon (she will be ten by then and has been in school full time since she was 6) and we will be receiving a referal for a new baby who will have some sort of special needs (and will most likely be a boy which I have no clue how to handle!) possibly by the end of this year.  Guess I am the one who is rambling now!  Anyway, God bless, I will keep you in my prayers!