stressing over high school

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  • petitemom
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    I am getting so much anxiety over high school I cannot sleep at night. It is becoming totally irrational!

    The more I look into it the worst it gets.

    I don’t know if I can actually handle it.

    We are in a State that does not recommand any testing so I have done none and really don’t feel like starting.

    I have not been recording anything and do not feel like starting. The idea of doing these things on top of teaching my other kids is overwhelming me.

     I looked into getting books to learn how to do all that but I am not feeling confident I can do it.

    What is happening to me?

    I do not like the idea of sending him back to school.

    Maybe an online program?

    Anyone had any good experience w/that?

    Are there any of those programs that are CM approach?

     

    Alicia Hart
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    Sorry, I am not at that stage yet but I do know that it seems like when I get stuck with homeschooling and I remember to ask God for wisdom, like it says to do in the book of James, he gives it just like He promised!

    I am praying that someone will respond to this post who has some suggestions for you.

    Rely on him – He will help you. 

    MelissaB
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    I have a high schooler and I can totally relate. When I start to stress myself out, I have to go back to the grass roots of why our family is homeschooling. For my family, it’s not all about book knowledge. I guess that is why I love CM so much. There are so many facets to education and it’s very broad and encompasses a lot of areas. This is our fourth year homeschooling and I feel like I’m finally relaxing enough to not compare myself to what public schoolers are doing and even not comparing myself to what other homeschoolers are doing. Of course I do seek wisdom from other moms (both online and that I personally know), but I don’t feel like because I’m not doing what they are doing, that I’m wrong. I also remind myself, that God has this. He knows what my children need and will supply for them where I am lacking. The state I’m in is very relaxed for homeschooling families as well and I really appreciate that. I think it makes me less stressed.

    I wonder if you’re stressing out because you’re thinking about the “after high school” part? That used to terrify me, but I finally realized that if any of my children go to college, it will be the local community college because that is what we can afford for them. The community college only has a placement test they take, so no transcripts are required or SAT/ACT testing. Or they might go to a trade school, into the work force immediately, or perhaps open their own business. I trust that God will guide them when the time comes.

    Hopefully some other mamas will chime in. Hang in there, I’m sure you’re doing a great job!

    petitemom
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    Thank you for your responses. 

    I did pray about it today and told God I just wanted to leave it all in His hands and that whatever He wants me to do I would do.

    I did get an answer and after talking w/my husband we decided to send him to our churchs’ school for high school. It is a very nice school w/a family atmosphere. 

    It’s like a big weight lifted from me. Now I can just focus on getting him ready for that and on schooling my other kids.

     

    momto2blessings
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    I feel your pain:) My dd is in 8th and has been thinking she might want to go to high school. The decision has not been totally made yet. My normally ‘homeschool at all costs’ self has been all over the place:) First defensive, then feeling peace about our local Christian School, then visiting it and thinking it’s ok but not super impressed(considered great by most), and now back to feeling homeschool is best again:) I am fortunate to have a good homeschool coop that meets weekly for many core high school classes, or it probably wouldn’t work so well.

    That’s great you have peace. I know for a while I felt like a load was off to be able to not worry about planning high school and just getting to be mom:) But after sitting through classes at the rigorous Christian high school and visiting teachers at our church’s school it gave me confidence that we were doing ok. Dd is not super academic but could have jumped right into what they were doing, I believe. I also did a lot of research on high school degree requirements in our state and learned that it was all pretty much what I had planned:)

    I hope the school works out great for you all, but just wanted to encourage you that the panic could pass and you can also do it if the Lord leads you back to homeschooling! Blessings:) Gina

    petitemom
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    thank you! I’ll try to keep the doors open and go where God leads me!!

    momto2blessings
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    And I’m trying to do the same:) Dd met a girl yesterday who used to homeschool and now loves going to the Christian H.S. She’s just really desiring more friends, I think. Her bff of many years who we used to spend so much time with has drifted and while she does have friends, she’s at that social stage and gets tired of being at home so much. I think she spends too much time on her own in her room, but doesn’t like my suggestions of bringing books to different parts of the house for a change/more windows…cheerier I think. Just praying, and I pray for you!!!

    petitemom
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    Thank you, praying for you too!

    It is a hard decision. I love CM and would love to continue. I worry that Saxon math (which they use) might not be the best fit.

    But at the same time I like the idea of having others teach them and grade his work and the social aspect is a definit plus. He already knows kids from our church going there. I know some of the teachers for many years.

    We’ll see…

     

    momto2blessings
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    Thanks for praying:) I’d love a CM school if we go the school route, but none by me. Our  homeschool coop uses Saxon, too…why does everybody seems to use it, lol:) I’d actually pretty much decided that I’d rather stick w/me teaching MUS through high school than have her take it at coop(as  much as I’d LOVE to hand math off!) The kids at co-op have 6 hours of Saxon Algebra homework per week (on top of weekly class time).  Ugh:( 

    Best wishes:) I know it’s cchallenging…I’ve lost sleep, too!!!

    petitemom
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    Yeah my nephew(he goes to the school I am considering) just told me he spends 1-1 1/2 doing math homework each day.

    That is A LOT on top of being in school so many hours.

    I’ll have to weight the pros and cons here.

    I am wondering if we can do math on our own and continue w/LOF.

    momto2blessings
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    Yeah, pros and cons to both ways:) My daughter just completed a paper on pros and cons of schooling options. I’m anxious to read it:)

    bubblzbooks
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    Jumping in here. I haven’t read all the post in depth…yet.  This has caught my attention because I’m struggling with putting my son into a charter school for highschool years.  I feel he needs structure (discipline) in his studies.  This has been a difficult 3 years because we’ve moved twice and “life” in general has really gotten in the way of education.  One week on, one week off, etc. has resulted in a “yo-yo” education for my 13 year old.  🙁  I’m feeling quite at the end of it all.  He now complains if our school day goes over 2 hours. If educating on his own for a week or two, he skips what I think are “very needed” steps to build understanding.  

    I live in a state that is very against homeschooling and I have avoided their system for him, ( I had 4 before him and followed every rule they insisted upon and became quite overwhelmed and “saw through” all their red tape; and counted it as worthless…thus the reason for avoiding them with my 5th child.)  I guess I’m telling this because if I choose to go with the charter school…I have to produce immunization proof, previous “report cards” and such.  🙁 🙁  This act will then put him into the “system”.  Ugh.

    What to do, what to do.  I’m worried because he mentions wanting to go to college.  I’m worried because he can’t sit still for education more that 2 hours. I”m worried because he hates hates to write.  He only likes to type and even then he can’t get done quick enough.  These are a few of the reasons I feel he needs structure and discipline.  College, which he is desiring to attend, will be a whole new world for him and s my husband puts it, “You don’t show up on the day of the race and say, okay, I’m ready without having prepared.” My 13 yr old is in for the shock of his life. Thus, the struggle to continue homeschooling or put him into a charter school 5 to 6 hours a day.  :/

    Again, what to do, what to do.

    petitemom
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    Well, no one can make this decision for you, thankfully!!

    Maybe wanting to go to College can motivate him to step it up. 

    As mentioned above, do not underestimate the power of prayer, I feel I got my answer that way.

    God knows what is the best for you and your family.

    If you do decide to send him to school you might need to figure out where he needs to be and work towards that goal.

    You can cover a lot in 2 hours, maybe take a break and do lighter subjects? We are planning to catch up in math over the summer if needed…

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