the book, laying down the rails advised for parents to be on the watch from the beginning against the child forming the habit of inattention. My child is already five and has acquired the bad habit of inattention. Is this bad habit reversible? What should I do? She has flitting thoughts and behaviour because her caretaker when she was young always bring her attention from one thing to another and spoilt herTamara BellModerator
Momma, it’s never too late to work on habits. You will always reap rewards when you take the time to concentrate on improving and creating habits. Five is still very young and attention is one of the habits Charlotte Mason encouraged Mothers to focus on in the early years. It takes time and effort on our part but is achievable. Sonya offers some insight and wisdom on how to begin cultivating habits in the early years. My 3rd child is 5.5 and I am beginning to see the fruit of my labor.ChrisParticipant
Reading CM’s teaching on habit training made me search for more information about habit training. My search led me to James Clear’s book, ATOMIC HABITS. I found that his book, based on current research on habit formation, in no way contradicts Charlotte Mason. What it does is actually expand on her teaching. For example, CM’s habit cycle had 3 stages: Trigger-Response-Reward. Mr. Clear’s habit cycle has 4 stages: Cue-Craving-Response-Reward. The Cue and Craving stages correspond to CM’s Trigger stage. The book teaches a lot about habit forming and habit breaking, and as I read through it, I saw instances where Mr. Clear repeated the same ideas taught by Ms. Mason. Anyone else read the book, ATOMIC HABITS? If so, what did you think about it?ChrisParticipant
I have read that to stop a bad habit, simply alter the reward. However I have not found much in the way of examples. Is there any place where I could find such examples?MonicaParticipant
The attention of a typical 5YO is quite short, and even more so if that particular child struggles with attention issues. So while my oldest could have sat and focused for 20 minutes at that age, my third child would have struggled to have focused attention for just two minutes.
Just a reminder to encourage a little one to do better without setting unrealistic goals!
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