I hope I can word this question to communicate what I need it to. :) As most of you probably know, my five year old DS has SPD with associated language and fine motor delays. I am entering my "formal" homeschooling this year with a combined CM/Waldorf approach.
Both CM and Waldorf heavily promote keeping formal lesson time very limited, especially at the early age of five, and providing plenty of time for child-directed stimulating play, nature exploration, etc. But here is my problem. Despite the fact that I have always provided plenty of high-quality play materials (shells, rocks, beads, blocks, vehicle sets, playhouses, loads of art supplies, etc.), DS seems to have very little ability to self-direct in his play. Any free time inevitably turns into self-stimulation (running and shouting aimlessly through the house, or, outside, endless digging in the dirt.)
I strongly believe in the concept of child-directed creative play, but can't seem to help him get there. He gets bored VERY fast. He will work with his art supplies for ten minutes at a time before running off and spiralling into his stimming patterns. He doesn't build with blocks or mega-blocks (his delayed fine motor skills frustrate him); he dumps them all on the floor, and moves on. So, for the sake of his developmental/educational well being, I find myself CONSTANTLY directing him, telling him what to do, moving him from activity to activity, reading to him, coloring WITH him, trying to build with him, doing puzzles with him, etc. And any time that I am not actively engaged with him is completely unproductive for him...and often actually counter-productive.
Is anyone else with an SPD or autistic child experiencing this? I so want to see DS engaged in happy, solitary, creative play, but at this point I don't see how to make it happen. And I am starting to worry that the opposite extreme (constant direction) may be stifling to him too.
I hope this makes sense. Please help if you have any suggestions! TIA!