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   coralloyd
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   My first ultra sound, they could not find a heart beat. I go for another one, at a different place tomorrow. I am 13 weeks with no bleeding. I have had an uneasy feeling this whole pregnancy. The first ultra sound was horrible. The tech. said nothing, showed us no pictures. All she did say was that she couldn't say anything. That was late Friday. So all weekend I had no idea what was going on. I was very scared. Late Monday (5:00) I finally got a call from the doctor's office telling me there was no heart beat. I am a wreck. I don't know how to tell the kids if I come back tomorrow with bad news. They were so excited. I don't know how to deal with all the feelings I have right now. My poor husband was so looking forward to another baby, he actually was hoping for twins. Has anyone been through this? What is there to expect. I was already in love with this baby. It is so hard to think I will never see him/her.

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   houseofchaos
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   Big hugs.

   I am so sorry, and am praying for peace and comfort.  Remember, you don't know for sure yet what is going on. 

   I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks, and it was a great loss.  I hadn't even been to the doctor's at that point.  I had noticed a decrease in pregnancy symptoms before the miscarriage occurred. For me, it was a little like experiencing a short labor.  No baby at the end, though :(

   My husband was also excited, and would have loved twins.  He was a great support and comfort. Lean on yours, and on the Lord.

   You will see this baby, maybe in 27 weeks, maybe not until heaven...

   You will be continually in my prayers.

   Lots of love,

   Gaeleen

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   Gem
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   Sending love to you right now, Cora - I lost a baby at 29 weeks.  Let us hope that this ultrasound gives you relief, I know you have spent a miserable time waiting.  If your news is the worst, you might find help where I  did, through a group called Resolve Through Sharing. They were a lifeline for me. They might have a program at your hospital with counseling for families who have experienced miscarrige, stillbirth, and newborn death.  The group usually holds meetings, and if you can get one of their books you will find it a wonderful resource to cling to during this horrible time.  You might find on on amazon if there is no group in your area.

   I am sure your baby is already as real to your children as he is to you and your husband - they will grieve if you have miscarried.  My children still want to talk about the loss of their brother, even though it happened before they were born.  Just tonight, when he was having his bath, my six year old son was talking about him, just wanting the same story for the millionth time.  They love him; he is real to them.  In this situation, let your common grief remind you of your common love.

   I hope all this talk is for nothing - I hope joy for you tomorrow.  Sending you a long long hug and I wish we could cry on each other's shoulder tonight - and tomorrow I am hoping for celebration.

   You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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   Gem
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   sorry double post

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   my3boys
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   I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  It truly is a loss and that is exactly why you feel the way you do.  I have experienced 6 miscarriages and have 3 beautiful boys.  The last one I had was between my 2nd and 3rd boys.  By that time I didn't think it was going to affect me as much as it did, but I grieved over that one as much as the others before I ever had my 1st boy.  It is an emotional rollercoaster that alot of people do not understand, unfortunately.  My husband and I dealt with our emotions in very different ways so that was difficult, too.  He broke down right away (each time) and then he was done, it took me until I became pregnant with the next one.  That was very hard.  So, needless to say, I know all too well how you feel and I am so sorry.  The feelings are real and you are just going to have to go with them.  Well meaning people will probably not know what to say (especially if they have no experience) but that is just how it is with loss.  Most of us are just afraid of not knowing what to say so we don't say anything or still end up saying the wrong thing.

   All of mine were different....some I had DNC's with, others ended in a very painful way....physically, then I was okay, but then the emotions ran high.  I am not someone that dealt with it well at all and most of my family and friends knew that I would be in a bad way for a very long time.  I pray that that does not happen to you. 

   I do have 3 blessings from God that I thank Him for everyday and that makes all the pain (that I can still feel at times) go away.  At times I am still in shock that I became a mom.....what a miracle!

   God Bless you at this time.  Feel free to pm me if you want to.

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   missingtheshire
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   Praying for you and your family and your little baby - I have no words of wisdom as I have not experienced what you are going through - but my thoughts and prayers are with you.  Linda

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   coralloyd
   Member

   Thank you so much everyone. I know I don't post here often, yet I visit all the time. I knew that this was a place full of women that love Jesus. Thank you. I will let you know what happens today.

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   Nina
   Member

   I am so sorry! I have had 2 early miscarriages. When I was preggo with my 4th living child they told me that she didn't have a heartbeat. This was right after my second miscarriage. I went in for a second opinion, I just couldn't except it and there she was dancing with a great heartbeat. I pray that this will be your case today. It is so hard waiting. Please keep us posted. We are praying for you!

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   dakota470
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   My heart goes out to you along with many prayers. I also had a miscarriage many years ago. I pray evetything goes well for you tomarrow!! God Bless, we hope to hear great news, we will hope for the best!!

    

   Steph

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    Misty
    Member

    My heart goes out to you and your dh.  What a scary thing.  May God give you the peace you need in this difficult time.

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    2flowerboys
    Member

    Thinking of you today.

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    coralloyd
    Member

    No heart beat.

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    Scherger5
    Member

    May the God of comfort wrap you in His loving arms as you grieve.  Prayers for your family.  I am truly sorry for your loss.

    Heather

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    Gem
    Member

    So, so sorry, Cora.  Sending you love, much love.

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    suzukimom
    Member

    I am sorry for your loss.  Take care of yourself and your family.

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