We have been attending a church for about 4 months that we really feel is spot on with teaching, outreach and has a genuine love for those within the church. After leaving our last church almost a year ago and visiting around so much, I know this church is rare. So, here is my question:
How much "fellowship" is too much...in your opinion? There is alot of pressure to participate in extra things at this church...extra in my mind, but highly valued in the eyes of this church. We purposefully do not do alot of extra curriculars with the kids. They have one or two activities that they participate in, homeschool co-op and a sport that meets one day a week for 8 weeks in the fall and 8 weeks in the spring. I find that when I am going here and going there, I don't get my household chores done, schoolwork dwindles and the kids are stressed from being hurried along.
This is a church that does not have youth group (which we are happy about) and has children's classes only up to 6 years af age. There is purposefully no Sunday school, so members are expected to join a small group that meets one evening a week. In fact you cannot join the church unless you commit to one of these groups. Additionally, there is ladies Bible study 3 Sunday nights a month, men's group 1 Sunday night per month, pot luck one Sunday per month, men's prayer group one Saturday morning per month....sigh.
I am just wondering where is the time for family? I can see attending small group twice a month, plus Worship service and serving members where there are specific needs, but I am feeling extra pressure and I don't know if I am wrong in feeling resistant towards this. I was reading For the Children's Sake this afternoon and I feel a sense of wanting to protect the free time that the children have. I need to mention that these small groups do not meet for Bible Study, just a meal and fellowship.
Do you have any thoughts you can share?