I need help. Our children are just not getting along. Our children are boys 11, 10, 8, 6, 3.5 (and girl 1 she's not a problem ).
Let me explain. For some reason lately, say the last month things are really getting bad. They put eachother down. They are snotty in there speach. They are evil int plotting things out. They look at eachother in such evil ways. They laugh when someone is getting in trouble. And they are so "SELFISH" it kills me. Sometimes when they are being unselfish I find out as I watch it really boils down to a selfish want in the end. I wont even go on.
When I read that they sound so horrible. But they can also be so kind and fun. We went to the Mall of America (we live in MN) to use the wristbands in the park which there godparents give them every year. They stayed close by, were very well behaved, waited nicely with rides.. but see to me it's a selfish thing again. It was all about them.
I need help. When they sass we do Apple cider viniger.. and they don't like it but it isn't helping either. When they argue we ask questions that make them think, and they forgive/or say I'm sorry and move on.
I believe I've lost there hearts (tears..). I have read aloud with my dh Loving our kids on purpose, it was a great book, and some of the items work well with us, I've read raising godly tomatos and I keep the little ones underfoot 90% of the time (I need them 100% I know).
They don't even like eachoter lately, they say things like I hate you to eachother. I don't get it. My dh and I don't talk like that, we monitor the movies (on sunday nights only) they watch, and the only people who do act rude and terrible are my parents. But I want them to see our children.
I know this is a big post with a lot going on. But any help would be great. We spend an hour once a week with one child and the others have quiet alone time. We love our children very much. I am not perfect in any regard, you would not look at me and say I wish I was like her. I have many flaws that I continue to ask the Lord to work on in me. But I just want the children to get along at this point I don't even care if they like eachother as long as they can get along and be kind.
This is a ramble of thoughts but I felt like I could post this here and look to you for wisdom and understanding. Thanks for listening. Misty