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   simple home
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   Haven't read all the posts above, but just wanted to share my first thought. Does your husband support you fully in homeschooling? Sounds like he needs to take the reigns and lay the law down with disrespecting kids. You need support in this situation and the children need to see their parents strongly united on issues of obedience in attitude and respect. Schools will not help with that, in fact it could very well get worse if this isn't dealt with at home.

   Prayers of peace to you and your family. Hang in there with faith! :)

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   Jenni
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   Such a great thread, ladies! Thanks for all your kind words and fantastic advice. And please know, blessedmom, that we all have "those" days... I'm having one of "those" weeks right now with Dad out of town... he's the crazy glue that holds our chaos together!

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   chocodog
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   Yes, After pulling my kids out of school they had similar problems. My youngest son told me he missed his friends. I think that was all it was. I did go over their disrespectful behavior and that seemed to work fine for me. I took it out of the book by Doorpost ,"Instruction in Righteousness" It has all the sins, and all the Bible verses that go with them. The book also tells you  what to do about the situations, and who in the Bible had that problem. It was very informative.  I then told them what school would be like if they were there. They had two or three 15 minute recesses. That was all. You can't just go outside and play when you want to. They also have school all day. I would point out everytime I saw a school bus. Look they are just now getting home from school. We have been out of school for hours. I even said, " Boy, I am glad you were able to go to the store with me today. If you were in school we couldn't do this."  I said that everytime we went anywhere. Still do it. :)  they have since stopped. My oldest son has said to me how happy he is I homeschool. Boy, my mouth about dropped to the floor. Today, He asked me about chocolate and where it came from. He said, a video said the Myans. So we looked it up on the Interenet. My comment was. " don't you just love homeschooling? You can look up all the questions you have rolling around in your brain! He smiled and knodded. Then he gave me a hug. Good Luck and pray alot for wisdom and the oppurtunities and like everyone else said it is in their heart. Also, don't ask them if they miss their friends in school. that will just give them fuel to burn with. :) May God bless you in your homeschooling. Remember no one is perfect except Jesus and even he had imperfect parents. And they Homeschooled! :)

    

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   Wings2fly
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   A few more thoughts to add in here:
   1. Do you have Laying Down the Rails from SCM? It sounds like you need to focus on habit training and they need to be on board with it through character associations.
   2. My ds7 commented tonight that I am not his teacher and I told him that I am and then he said, "but you look like my mom." lol. I don't think it was disrespect at this age. It is just a tough issue to think of your mother as your teacher, also. After all, wouldn't you rather live with your mother than your teacher?!
   3. When you feel you are a failure, look at the verses in the Bible that help us to lean on the Lord for His help and guidance: 2 Corinthians 12:9-11 where it is included, "...when I am weak, then am I strong."

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   anniepeter
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   Speaking of Laying Down the Rails - does anyone have experience with getting kids of this age 15ish to buy into the idea and join the family in working on these things?  I so wish I had known how to do this when my first kids were little!  I have a fifteen yo son and would like to have hime join with me and the younger ones on this...contemplating...

    

   Blessedmom,

   Just want to say I've been there!!  My heart aches for you.  Things have gotten much better largely b/c of Dad helping  w/ accountability and respect as suggested and encouraging me to get out of the way (as in not allow him to be relying on me for what to do next, etc.  make/allow him to be in charge/know what and when to do and Dad hold him accountable).  Boys are tough for we Moms to handle when Dad isn't present all the time.  They need Dad's hand - heavily sometimes!

   One other thing I'm confident made a BIG difference is this:

   Are you familiar with the book/seminar "Love and Respect"?  The context is marriage...and I thinkg we are relatively familiar with the concept here probably, but the earth-shaker for me was that I need to apply this with my son.  Just realizing that he is becoming a man...struggling to become a good one, boys in this range are volatile, and the quiet voice of respect - Mom respecting and appreciating, praising his efforts to be responsible (if you can just catch one and draw your attention to it!!).  I'm just sure this was the saving grace for me.  Truly help sent from heaven when I despararately needed it.  A wonderful book(s) to read with your younger one (and the older one may just want to listen in) along this line is Little Britches and the sequel "Man of the Family".  We had been reading these books about this time and they gave me the practical application of the conceept...the how to.  If you haven't read them, I can't recommend them too highly.  They did this mother's heart a world of good in showing me how to help my son and be what he needed me to be so he could respect me also.  Which was/is a question I've asked myself repeatedly too - am I not worhty of their respect?  Why can't they respect me?  Anyway, I do think it's a two-way street (with no excuses being made for boys not treating their mothers with honor) in the sense that we can either make it easier or more difficult by our own actions/reactions.

   Be of good courage...

   Julie

    

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