Love those looks from PS teachers !!!

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  • caycecronk
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    Jen,

    Im glad im not the only one feeling this way!

    LDIMom
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    I won’t even get into a discussion about it with a public school teacher, as I know where it is going to go. No point in it as missceegee said. OTOH, I know quite a few FORMER PS teachers, who are now homeschooling their own DC. There is nothing that needs to be said there, as it is clear they feel they can teach better. And the ones I know are in no way judgmental or questioning of my ability and more than once have asked, “what do you do when … ” or “have you found a good way to do this … ” etc. So I know they are just like me in that they are always considering if something is working or not and if not, how to make changes as necessary.

    I do think people could be respectful of all choices, which is what I try to do. I have one family member who I have been direct with b/c she will question our decision to homeschool. When she does, if we are alone and in a place where a discussion is acceptable, I will point out specific reasons I feel the PS isn’t able to provide some things I can provide at home. That is usually the end of her judgment, because she can’t argue with the things I point out.

    I am happy to admit the PS has some things I can’t offer our children, but it seems that often the judgmental people are not willing to admit homeschool can offer some things the PS can’t/won’t/doesn’t. That is what bugs me about it.

    Wings2fly
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    This post had great timing as we have been asked these typical school questions lately, too.

    MissusLeata
    Participant

    People come out of the woodwork it seems to say to me, “Are you homeschooling?” “Are you going to homeschool?” My oldest is only 5 but it’s like it’s just presumed that a Christian in TX will homeschool. Either that or I must have some invisible stamp that says, “earth kissing, hippy momma.” 🙂 I’m not sure. But here, in E. Texas, it seems well accepted.

    Before I married, I went to a little village in MX and started a private school. Through the grapevine, I heard that most of the PS teachers mocked me. But one was a friend and on more than one occassion I went to her for counsel or to vent about the horrid state of affairs in the education system in MX. She was totally on my side and was a great resource. She saw the problems in her culture and in the local PS and encouraged me a lot. Some PS teachers will be supportive of homeschoolers. Some of them are barely hanging on in horrible districts where they know their hands are tied to really educate or make a difference.

    NJcountrygal
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    My husband and I had a discussion recently about this topic.  We decided to make sure that when the grillings begin that we respond confidentally and unapologetically.  One of my favorite thing to say is that our dd can learn more in 2 hrs. at home than in 8 hrs. at school, not to mention all the extra time and cash we have to explore and learn about anything that interest us.  When we answer this way we usually end up getting a long list of complaints about the PS from the parents we are talking to.  Who knows, maybe we are planting seeds for future HS families.

    We just moved to East Texas from NJ and have noticed that it is more accepted here.  Now, the first question is usually “What cirriculum?”.  We decided to go ahead and shock people by saying, “We don’t use a curriculum.”.  That’s always a fun conversation!!!

    HollyS
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    I’ve found women in their 50s and 60s to often be the most outspoken ones…I think it’s a result of “women’s lib”.  We should be out enjoying careers and letting others raise our DC.  😉  The negative comments I’ve had about being a SAHM are either from 50-60yo women or teenage girls.  Not that I haven’t had nice comments from that age group as well.  The sweetest comments about our family size are usually from 70-80yo couples…they love to tell us about the 4-7 children they had!  

    I try to answer HS questions as politely as possible…even if they keep asking the same question over and over.  I do dread all those questions though…anything about homeschooling, how many kids I have (and are we planning on having more), what my DH does (he’s a pastor), etc. all seem to end in awkward silence.  Frown

    I do think it’s funny that PS teachers seem to be strongly for or strongly against HSing.  It seems the ones that have HSing friends are really for it.  

    clay1416
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    We have had only one question this week. My DS went with me to the grocery store after his therapy session and the lady that was bagging our groceries asked him “you didnt go to school?” my son answered her that “yes I did!” and end of the conversation. He did not lie, yes he did finish his “school” related activities before we went shopping we just didnt mention he did them at home and not in a prison like building 🙂 I have learned that the more explanation I give the worst it gets. I dont have to tell them my life and they should not be asking in the first place. If they realized we HS and ask why I simply say “that is the beauty of this country, there are choices for everybody, depending on what we feel and believe is best for our kids. Each parent has the right to choose.” That way it doesnt feel as if I’m judging them and let them know I have the right to keep my kids at home so they should not judge me either.

    Delkroemer
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    I have a friend who is a ps teacher and she has bugged me about sending my kids to school and even putting my 2 yr old in daycare so she is socializing and out of my way, as she put it. I really still can’t believe how some people feel it is there business or place to say anything. I would never and have never asked someone why they send their kids to public school, though I have my own ideas as to why they do usually lol Even many Christian women at my church send their kids to public school and work full time and are very vocal about their excitement as the school year begins, I don’t think they realize how bad it sounds when they talk about their joy due to getting rid of their children for a bunch of hours a day.

    Rebekahy
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    I have to say, I would much rather get the “where do you go to school question” than the “what are you going to be for halloween question”….  One more month until we get accosted from every stranger in a 5 foot radius about what they are going to dress up as for Halloween.   I’d love to reply with the “why do you ask?”, but I’m not sure that even in the most polite tone could keep it from sounding rude or deter any questions.  Perhaps if I give a capitalistic answer as opposed to a religious one…. Or maybe I’ll just let them wear princess dressup clothes the whole month of October to avoid it altogether.

    nebby
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    I second the minding Halloween questions more, Rebekahy. People seem to understand to some degree homeschooling, but not celebrating Halloween is beyond their conceptions.

    Nebby

    http://www.lettersfromnebby.wordpress.com

    2flowerboys
    Participant

    Had to LOL on that one!! I can’t stand that question either…and if you say We don’t celebrate Halloween..they look at you as you have grown two heads!! LOL!!!  Everyone celebrates Halloween!!!

    Boy, you are weird!!! You homeschool, don’t celebrate Halloween, AND you don’t do Santa!! Your poor kids are going to be weirdos!! LOL!! 🙂

    RobinP
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    My mom told me we were taking all the joy out of Christmas for our children because we don’t do Santa.  I said, “Jesus isn’t joy enough??”  Hate the Halloween thing, too.  At least my children are getting older so those questions don’t come up as regularly anymore.

    Britney
    Member

    I am cracking up at where this post has gone!! The halloween and santa questions drive me bananas! I’m at a loss sometimes as to what to say besides “we don’t participate in halloween”. Because I agree, the facial expressions some people give you are crazy! My family thinks we are taking away our children’s childhood by not doing the santa thing. I’m glad I’m not the only one who will have “weirdos for kids”!!!! LOL!

    suzukimom
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    Well, I have to admit that we do the Christmas and Halloween thing (although I have grown to absolutely hate them as an adult… sigh)  but we are still considered very weird around here….

    Just wanted to gripe about the Tooth Fairy!  My grandson and granddaughter were staying here last week as their mom was having a baby…  and my gs lost another tooth.  It was ok because his mom gave her sister the money to handle it (she is living here right now too) – and so she did it all….  Boy was my mouth figurative wide open to find out that the tooth fairy gave him $4 for that tooth!  (The tooth fairy gives $1 a tooth here… although my ds got $2 per tooth for the 3 he had pulled in one day (they were healthy – just hadn’t fallen out after a year after the adult teeth came in behind…)  WOW.  Fortunately, I haven’t heard anything about it from my kids… so either he didn’t show the money to them or my ds has figured out the tooth fairy….

    LDIMom
    Participant

    Why do people have to be so nosy???

    And try to force their opinions on others?

    That is about all I can say about the santa discussion when people try to tell us how we are “ruining it” for our children and how they “better not spill the truth” to their kids. Do they not see the problem with this logic??? Um, let’s see, let’s LIE to our kids so they can believe in a big man in a red suit on CHRISTmas. Sigh.

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