@ BETHANNA: I am sorry that the race-card has been thrown at you. Unfortunately, it has been insinuated that you have ulterior motives of racist undertones in your toy requests and I think it's wrong. Though you never gave reasons for your preferred toy choices, the worst of motives has been ascribed to you.
My family is diverse: all 3 children are Jewish, my dd and oldest son are bi-racial, as well. I would not have, in a million years, assumed that because someone doesn't want certain toys that they must have racist tendencies. I think that's absurd. If you invited my bi-racial dd in the first place, then obviously she is welcome; irrespective of the types of toys requested.
Reading into your toy requests racist implications is a knee-jerk reaction.
Your original post was not about us judging your motives for why you do or don't want certain toys for your dd, but seeking advice on what to write on the invitations considering your concerns.
Do what you think is right and G-d Bless you in your attempts to use discernment in this world.
Have a great party!