Ok, I give up.... except I can't.
I have absolutely no idea how to get kids to do things. Oh, school we are fine with. I'm talking about cleaning bedrooms, chores, habits etc.
Obviously I'm not doing this right. I am sick of the fighting, arguing, dawdling, etc.
I've tried Accountable Kids. I've tried Managing their Chores. I've tried basically the "default" of "ok, now get dressed. Now make your bed". and another program.
Even simple habits - put shoes/boats away when you come in..... doesn't happen without me directing each child to it (and then they do it poorly....) or - put dishes in dishwasher after you eat (or on counter if dishwasher has clean dishes.) We have worked on that for years - and I still end up having to call at least one child back after every meal. It has taken us 2 hours this morning for me to get my kids doing their simple morning routine which should take about 15-20 minutes (plus time for violin review songs - another 20 minutes there....) and we still aren't done as my kids are sitting in their bedrooms instead of cleaning it.
I just don't understand what to do. I don't get it. I apparently don't understand because nothing works for me. I don't know what to do.
It is so obvious that I haven't laid down good habits for them because I am having anything but smooth and easy days.... but it isn't from lack of trying on my part.... it is apparently from lack of me knowing what I'm doing.