So I have this friend who is great. Full of knowledge and insight. She is older and wiser. She doesn't claim to know it all or have done everything right. We get along fine. Though every time I go over there I leave with some nagging feeling that she has said to me. So today I'm going to ask you...
My 13yr old son (the same one I speak of in Need help..who to call) and I went over to my friends house and she was going to talk with me about his issues at hand. We were talking about when it happens and over what it happens.
I am not sure how this exactly brought this up but I said, "Do you really thing it's to much to expect a 13yr old to open his curtains in the morning?" And she looked me in the eye and say, "Um Yes, that's to much for a 13yr old boy" she was and is dead serious.
I do expect a lot from my children. I will not deny that. I expect that they help maintain the house to the condition there dad (and I) made it. I expect that if we like to keep a tidy house that they need to do there share in keeping there things tidy.
I mean what are you HONEST thoughts. Do you think expecting a 13 yr old boy to get up, get dressed, do his bible/devotion/prayer time, make his bed and open his curtain in the morning to much?
I know that his daily chores are not an issue with this friend, who is a wonderful mentor, because she liked my chore chart and had me make her family one. She has 6 children, so it's not like she only has one and doesn't expect as much maybe.
Is it to much? Why did this silly comment bother me so much? I told dh about it and he just laughed and said, is it to much to ask him to put his pants on, or turn off his light?
I love this women, her dh and their chldren. But it seems like every time we get together I leave with these little comments she says and they put me down.
Am I nuts or is it just another one of those comments I need to brush off my back?