kelsymomof3
Member
SO I started today, very motivated and excited about this new adventure. It was my first day.
I HATED my day today. My 8 year old was fine. But my 3 year old while wanting to participate was also being a typical 3 year old. And my 20 month old was the biggest distraction and needy and cranky and acting like a 2 year old. Ugh! I had the worst day! Nap could not have come fast enough today so I could have one on one time with my 8 year old...BLAH!
mj
Member
I feel like that every Monday and I don't have any children under the age of 8. I'm so sorry the day wasn't what you wanted it to be!! Remember that tomorrow is a fresh start! I find the more expectations I have for this journey, the more chances there are for me to be let down. So, I'm trying to give my expectations to God, do my best and let Him take care of the rest.
I'm sure others who actually have younger children can commiserate and offer suggestions!!
I hope tomorrow is better.
Mamasong
Member
I'm sorry you had a rough day! Our younger two will be playing just fine until I sit down to do lessons with our oldest, and then all of a sudden they "need" my attention... hmmm... I think I know that game!
Do you have activities to keep your young ones busy while you work with your 8 year old? I find that if I set aside special things for my little ones to do then it keeps their attention longer so I can focus with my older child. We usually do our "lessons" at the kitchen table so the youngest can sit down and feel like they have something important to do too. A big batch of soft, homemade play clay and little plastic animals to stick in it has been a usual attention-keeper for us. Anything out of the ordinary can be helpful and give your younger two something to do. You can also rotate activities so they don't lose their novelty, for example: Monday- play clay; Tuesday- glue sticks and paper shapes; Wednesday- magnetic activity sets... well, you get the idea. The key is to keep these up and away until you really need them (and not throw them down in utter exasperation, but set them up first with lots of encouragement)! A great thing about the Charlotte Mason method is that lessons will be short, so you only need to occupy your little ones for 10-20 minutes at a time, not hours on end which is pretty much impossible! You may already be doing all these things, but that's all I can think of right now. I hope tomorrow goes smooth and easy for you! Best wishes!
Rachel
I am so sorry. To help you feel better, please take a look at my day today.
Mom and two 8-yr-olds are sitting comfortably on the couch reading about Native Americans while 5-yr-old plays with action figures. 2-yr-old takes all the papers for the craft project and scatters then across the room. After mom picks them up he grabs them and crumples them while running as fast as he can from mom. Mom gets out bag of dinosaur counters and continues reading. 2-yr-old plays quietly for 3.5 minutes then begins to chuck them one by one across the room. Mom pretends she doesn't see it and keeps reading. For the remainder of the day - 2-yr-old dances across all the tiles other children are using for math, throws the tiles across the room, grabs white board marker and workbooks from 5-yr-old, strips out of all clothes, puts large white board on the couch and jumps up and down on it, sticks magnet letters on board then chucks them across room, goes into a different room and dumps Goldfish crackers on the floor and stomps on them, goes upstairs and finds a stray marker which he uses to color the table red. And then he went to bed.
This is not normal for him. But, he does have those days. I feel your pain. MOST of the time the following works:
1. Have him sit on my lap or near me when we read story books or books with lots of pictures.
2. Spend 10-15 minutes playing with him several times a day while the older boys do independent work.
3. I have a cupboard with one shelf just for him. It includes a variety of activities he can choose from (or I can get for him) to play quietly with while we are working. I change these out every few weeks to keep them new and exciting.
4. Sometimes he just needs a snack or something to drink.
5. Have him participate in whatever we are doing. If we're using tally sticks for math, he takes a handful and 'counts' to himself or makes towers. If we're doing a science experiment he's right there with us.
6. I sometimes, gasp, turn on a movie for him upstairs. He loves the animated storybook videos as well as LeapFrog and Between the Lions and Super Why. I try to keep it educational but I have been known to turn on Dora or Diego. I don't use this often, but in a true emergency it works.
7. Some days we ditch our regularly planned lessons and go outside for P.E. or nature study or we just read lots of books that day; I'll read some and the older boys will read some.
8. I'll have one boy play with the 2-yr-old while I work separately with the second and then they'll switch.
Here are some ideas for things to have in a cupboard or in shoe boxes or other containers that you can change out every few days.
1. lacing cards
2. beads for stringing
3. magnets
4. play dough
5. styrofoam with toothpicks (they love to stick toothpicks into the styrofoam)
6. small containers with small erasers or beads - the child takes the small objects and puts them in the small container. You can use small snacks for this as well.
7. puzzles
8. file folder games (like matching shapes or colors)
9. shape sorters or geometric stackers
10. those bead things with the crazy wires and you move the beads along the wires
11. animal toys
12. fill a sink with water and let them pour water into cups or give their animals a bath or swim
13. put child in bathtub with cups and/or toys and sit in the room with them while you teach school. We've done math and reading in the bathroom/hall many, many times.
14. string a small rope somewhere in the room and let them use clothespins to hang up socks or washclothes
15. have them sort objects into containers - put a red tag one one, a blue tag on another, etc and have them put the reds in the red and blue in the blue
16. paper and washable markers or crayons
17. your 3-yr-old might be able to handle scissors so give her paper and scissors
18. pom-poms - they can put them in small cups or I made some pattern type cards with different circles of colors and they match the pom-pom to the colored circle - I also have given them a slingshot and let them shoot pom-poms.
19. pipe cleaners - my kids love to string beads onto them or just twist them around
20. stickers and paper - the foam type stickers seem easier for little hands. I buy them on clearance after a holiday.
21. a medicine dropper and a cup - let them squeeze drops of water into the cup. Use a mat or have them do it on the counter or tile floor
22. Magna-doodle
23. I've sometimes filled a bucket with rice or beans and then hid a whole bunch of their toys. I place it on a large cookie sheet and they have to dig through and find their toys. It can get messy though.
I'm sure many other ladies here have many more ideas.
Homeschooling with little ones can be challenging. But it can also be really fun. It might take a while for your kids to get into the groove of things. This is different for them too. Take some deep breaths. Pray. Smile. You can do this.
Heather
kelsymomof3
Member
Good tips everyone! Thanks so much! I'm going to have a fresh but much later start today :)
Mamasong
Member
One more thing, this may be a helpful post from last year here on SCM: http://simplycharlottemason.com/2008/05/07/preschoolers-in-the-mix/
Hope your week is getting smoother!
Rachel
kelsymomof3
Member
It has become a lot easier now...I guess it just needed time. I had ideas of how it would work out and it just wasn't happening the way I wanted. But now its a lot better. Thanks again!
That is great!! I am glad things are going a lot better.
Give yourself and your dd time. It only gets better..well I have only been homeschooling for 5 years. But in my experience it has gotten better each year as I become more relaxed and learn more of what my dc need and most importantly as I lean more on God and his direction for our family instead of racing around trying to find out what all the books say I "should" be doing.
Keep up the good work! :-)
Shelly
mj
Member
I second what Shelly 'said'!! :D
mj
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