I was going to send this in a PM, but then remembered that you cannot receive PMs. I ask that others not respond re. my post, but simply as the Lord leads in response to your original question.
I am sharing a bit of my perspective here on parenting, working moms, homeschooling in general just to give you an idea where I am coming from when I address your specific situation. I am not saying all families should have this mindset, but just that this is what is right for our family. I understand that at times families will financially need the extra income from the wife and I know that there are families that successfully homeschool while the mom works either full or part time. I have not worked outside of my home since a few months after I married 16+ years ago. Those few months were to pay off my previously acquired debts - car and student loans. Since that time, my husband and I commited that I would stay home, even before we had children. For five years, I was home and we were childless. I could have earned quite a bit during those years, but we made a decision to live on one salary from the beginning. We have been blessed that my husband has had a good job all these years and has been able to provide for us, even 4 children later. I know not all families are so fortunate. When hubby was a child, his father was a pastor and his family was poor. Really, really poor. His father worked 3 jobs for a good while, taking his bike so that his mom could stay home and raise the young kids and keep the one family car in the event of emergency. This was a sacrifice his father was willing to make and the example he set for my hubby. As homeschooling was unheard of then and their four went to school, his college educated mother went to work as a teacher and college professor during the hours her children were in school, but she always managed to be home when the kids were home. This example is one, that were our family in need, we would follow. Hubby would take another job or two so that I can stay home and raise these children we've been blessed with and I would return to work as an absolute last resort with clear direction from the Lord. Our commitment to that has never wavered. We have also homeschooled from the beginning and have commited to do so until the very end. We are on the same page with this, too. If, however, we were not on the same page and having the children be homeschooled was a source of friction and disharmony in our marriage for whatever reasons, then I would seriously consider school for them. It would be far from my ideal, but my marriage comes before the kids and homeschooling.
Misty, please know that what I say below I mean in sisterly love and I don't mean to sound harsh. Also, I don't know your husband at all and only know you by your SCM forum communications. My advice is based on reading many of those.
You have 7 kids, including littles, right? What are you supposed to do with them while you go to a 3rd job? Mothering is a full time job. Homeschooling is a full time job, perhaps part time if they are independent learners and there are only so many hours in a day. Are the kids all old enough to stay home? Otherwise a great deal of any earnings will be eaten by childcare costs unless the kids go with you or your husband keeps them.
Many of your posts have been about your family dynamics and I am often stunned to hear what you communicate. To be honest, it sounds like your husband has unrealistically high expectations of you as a wife and mother and low of expectations of himself as a father as evidenced by the fact that he will not stay home with them while you run errands, will not attend church because they wiggle and aren't silent, etc. I'm sorry, but he participated in the creating of the children and he has the responsibility to see that they are raised properly according to the Word. Parenting was never meant to be a one person job. Single parent families exist and can work, but they were not God's design. In your home there are two of you. The two of you need to work together to train and nurture and educate your children. It seems from your posts that the two of you are not on the same page about many things - training, working, educating, birth control, respect, etc., but you've given no indication of what he is doing about any of it. It sounds like it has been simply lumped on your shoulders to figure it all out and do it right. That is a heavy burden to carry. There are many scriptures about families, parenting, fathers and I encourage you to seek them out to read together. Sometimes, God uses songs to speak to me in ways that are very clear. Here are two that the Lord impressed upon me to mention to you. Perhaps they will encourage your husband if you feel led to share them with him.
Courageous by Casting Crowns
Lead Me by Sanctus Real
These two songs encapsulate my prayers for your family and your husband. I pray for peace, harmony and unity in your home. All of our homes, really.
God bless, Misty.
Again, please know my post was meant for Misty personally and do not respond to it.