I really don't know where to start.....I've been thinking our ds age 6 years and 10 months is "special" in some way since he was a toddler, but I can't quite put my finger on it. I'm not sure that we're looking for a formal diagnosis, but some ideas so that I can better meet his needs academically. I guess I'll start with some concerns and go from there.
He's always been very sensitive to loud noise. He hates the worship music in church, the hum of the bathroom or kitchen fan, or any louder than average tones.
He only likes to wear certain clothing/fabric as some clothing is too this or too that.
He spoke in full sentences by his second birthday and has a very large vocabulary for a child. But, he really only talks here at home to our immediate family. He can and will interact with other children, but not most adults. Many people, including family, think he's dumb and/or disrespectful. I don't believe it's either.
He will not take no for an answer. He's very demanding and likes us to perform acts of service that he's very capable of.
He's always been extremely large for his age (He was 10 lbs. 14 oz and nearly 23 inches at birth.) so people think he's much older and it seems they expect more from him than he's able to give.
He's very coordinated and was riding a bicycle without training wheels or assistance by age 3. However, he's very stiff and can't bend well. He's extremely strong as last summer he bear hugged one of my husbands adult nephews and picked him up off the ground. (about 140 - 150lbs.)
He's easily overstimulated and grits his teeth or shakes when overwhelmed or frustrated. Lately, he's been gritting his teeth so hard, they're grinding together and I'm concerned he's going to break a tooth or fracture his jaw. He does occassionally tantrum.
He seems about a 6-12 months behind others his age academically. Reading instruction is extremely difficult. He understands that letters make sounds and knows many letters and sounds, but can't seem to get past that to blend or read short words. His eyes wander all over, but not on the page, and he seems to guess even if he knows the answer. He loves to be read to.
He seems brilliant when it comes to addition, but still can't recognize numbers past 10.
His handwriting has improved greatly over the past couple of months, but he wants to make letters and numbers backward, from right to left, much like when he adds multiple digit numbers, or he starts from the bottom rather than the top.
He gorges on food and seems to have an obsession with it. He doesn't seem to have that "I'm full and need to quit now" button.
I feel this post is getting too long. I guess I'm wondering about the possibility of either mild autism or a processing disorder, but not sure where to go or what to do. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I should also mention, I have only one sister and no brothers and he is our only son, so I'm not sure what are average boy behaviors and what are not.
Thanks so much for reading,