My heart is extremely heavy today for my 7yo dd. Over the past couple of weeks, she and I seem to be drifting further and further apart. She has had such an attitude towards me, and I couldn't tell you why. Normally she is such an easy-going, pleasant little girl, but lately I've felt almost like I have a 15yo with PMS. Every time I ask or tell her to do something, she responds with a tone that says, "I'm doing it Mom!" Or, if she says "yes ma'am", it's rarely with cheerfulness. I've noticed she prefers Daddy over me much of the time, especially at bedtime. He's the one she wants to tuck her in, not me. Admittedly, I have been getting on her a lot more recently because she is dawdling/playing when she should be taking care of her chores and because of her attitude and tone of voice. I have tried to make a point to speak to her slowly and gently, making sure she knows I'm not angry or in a hurry when asking her to do something.
Her bday was last week, and she was less than grateful for the gifts she received, which is so unlike her. The only things she was thrilled about were the three stuffed animals from her grandparents. We even got her a new bike, and didn't get the response from her we hoped for.
She also seems to be discontent much of the time. I offer one thing for a snack, and she automatically wants something else. I tell her she has five minutes to finish playing, and she wants more time. I ask her to help me with something, and she gives an effort for about two minutes and then complains about being tired or not wanting to help at all. It's always something.
I truly am trying to look in the mirror to see if my actions/words are causing this shift in her attitude/behavior. Sure, I could probably spend a little less time on the computer or in the kitchen or whatever and a little more time with her, but she acts like she really doesn't want to be with me. I've noticed she's arguing with her older brother a lot more too. The only person in the family she doesn't seem to have problems with is Daddy. I'm glad she's so enamoured with him, but seriously.....she's treating the rest of us like junk, especially me.
I would love some encouragement, advice, and sympathy, especially if you know exactly what I'm talking about.